Five Steps to Increase Emotional Maturity

Five Steps to Increase Emotional Maturity
Written by Invictus Intern Faith Clay

There is no substitute for experienced coaching with an accurate and broad knowledge base. I dare say this is a generally accepted concept. Perhaps less well understood and discussed (but no less important) is the concept of emotional maturity.

“What? Emotional Maturity? Maybe I’m reading the wrong blog,” you may be thinking.

Actually, the sports world has been recognizing more and more the importance of knowing oneself, one’s limitations, strengths, weaknesses, and being able to manage your attention and focus. Getting into the zone, pushing yourself to your limits, and knowing when to back off are all part of emotional intelligence or maturity (EI or EM).

There are 18 competencies identified as making up emotional intelligence with some being more essential in sports and fitness than others [1]. An athlete’s most important emotional/mental faculty is that of self-awareness—knowing one’s emotional state, providing accurate self-assessment, possessing self-confidence, and managing one’s own emotions and focus.

For coaches, the list expands to recognizing the emotional state of others and building relationships of trust and influence. This is exceptionally important for coaches of athletes who may be lacking emotional intelligence.

Not convinced? Researchers in India have investigated various types of competitive athletes from handball players to combative sports such as boxing, Judo, and wrestling [2]. They found that the level of emotional maturity was not significantly different based on the type of sport the athlete played; however, “International level players demonstrated significantly higher levels of emotional maturity as compared to the other two performance groups” (national and state level competitors) [2,3].

With all that CrossFit has done and continues to do for the world of fitness, it is essential that we as participants and proponents check ourselves with regard to our own emotional intelligence. Bo Hanson, four-time Olympian and coach, reassures us that emotional intelligence is a skill that can be learned. By developing this maturity, self-awareness, and self-management, we can better understand ourselves – when we need to back off or seek coaching to avoid an injury and when we are ready to push ourselves to the limits for maximum gains. In this regard, perhaps emotional maturity is the prescription to “Forging Elite Fitness.”

Here are five steps that have helped me improve my emotional maturity in my personal life as well at the gym:

1. Check your ego at the door
   When I enter the gym, I leave my competitive pride at the door. I go to the whiteboard in a humble mindset of determination. I remind myself of what my limits are, how I should scale the workout (or ask the coach if I’m not certain), and take note of which movements I need to improve.
2. Be in the moment
   When the coach starts explaining the movements and standards for the workout, I try to actively listen and be present; that means not talking with others while the coach is explaining what needs to be done. The coach’s tips may help me lift more, move faster, or avoid injury.
3. Increase self-discipline
   There are times when I have no desire to leave the comfort of my house to go to the gym. I may try to find some excuse that will not help me improve. Self-discipline is a sign of maturity and can be improved by consistently doing things we know we should but may not want to do at the moment.
4. Develop personal responsibility
   This goes hand in hand with self-discipline. The coaches want me to improve, to be safe, and to enjoy my workouts. However, similar to getting myself into the gym, ultimately these are my responsibilities. I have a personal responsibility to bring a good attitude and take responsibility for my own development. I should be learning from my mistakes rather than placing blame.
5. Be a victor
   We need to work on our weaknesses to be stronger physically and emotionally.  Feeding the mind positive thoughts will help us push through hardships.  Consistently and correctly completing workouts builds confidence and experience that will ultimately enable us to attain our personal fitness goals.

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